This is one of the practices I engaged in years ago, at the suggestion of a man of whom I have great respect.
I’ve never been able to complete all this list entails in a single day.
The part where it says- I will do a good turn and not be found out and if I get found out it will not count, is one of my favorite things. I was told the reasons why are:
You’ve already received your reward by taking credit for your good deed.
It then becomes an act to make yourself look good rather than a good deed.
It is truly a selfless and thankless deed When done only to benefit someone else if your not found out .
This whole card helps you to grow in selflessness and humility and grasp the bigger picture, I would recommend it for anyone. I’m not advertising, this is not my business, and I receive no funds for anything contained in my blog. My only reward is if it helps you or someone you love.
You can purchase this card and many other pieces of great literature through your local area Intergroup just search Alcoholics Anonymous Intergroup and your cities name. It’s like a gift store with great recovery items. online at
www.walletcards.com/cardlist.html This one has a list of self help, motivational, love, humor and inspirational cards recovery or just because. it’s a great site. i think I’m going to order 1 of each if they’ll let me to see what I can get out of it.
Today I say forget about yourself and think of someone else for a while. It is through self forgetting and helping others that we know peace
Some of the most valuable things I’ve learned in my life are these quotes;
“Can’t isn’t an option when you have to!”
I learned this during intense training, it was drilled in over and over again at moments I was already well past my limits physically and mentally.
Another pearl of wisdom was this quote which goes hand in hand with the other one:
“Keep moving!!! You slow down, you stop, and you die!”
The quote that probably drives me to blog and reach out to others in my day to day life is this:
“No one gets left behind!”
These fundamentals can bring you beyond your limitations; they’ve brought me through more situations in my life than I have time to talk about. I will say; What wouldn’t you be willing to do to survive, not live well or happy, just survive? When your situation means do or die, I suggest do.
I grew up around the tip of Lake Michigan. This is one of the things that made it easy for me to embrace these concepts because they were already part of my life. It gets cold; I’m talking 20 degrees below zero cold with a wind-chill factor of 60 below. If you go outside after a shower you can hear your hair freeze in seconds. This is a great reference because you absolutely have to keep moving “If you slow down, you stop, you freeze to death” “You never leave anyone behind” I was walking home once and it was a little over a mile, but in this kind of cold and wind 100 feet seem like a mile. It had been snowing for days, all of the roads were closed, and snow drifts were 13 feet high. I had walked about 3/4 of the way, and decided i was going to take a short cut across the golf course. I started up the embankment at the side of the road; my feet were plunging into the snow to my upper thigh with every step (about 3 feet). I got a little better than half way up and WOOOOOFFF! I dropped into the drifted snow up to my armpits. The snow was packed in enough that I could barely move. I was in trouble, already near frozen because I thought I was a bad ass and wasn’t dressed properly. I was wearing jeans with sweat pants under them, 2 t-shirts, a flannel, and a thin Harley Davidson, straight collar, Leather jacket without a liner, two pairs of socks and my hiking boots. With no gloves, no hat, and no scarf. I had been warming my hands under my arms, then warming my ears with my hands, and cupping my hands over my nose trying not to get frostbite. I would run this cycle over and over as my freezing hands were also my warming tools that I would constantly have to reheat.
So, here I am, stuck in a snow drift half frozen and I’m gassed. A real “Uh Oh!” moment. All I could move was my arms and I couldn’t reach anything. I had to do something, but couldn’t do anything. “Can’t isn’t an option when you have to!” There was a tree branch about a few feet away, so I began nudging the snow. Little by little I bumped forward, then back, then forward then back. The snow didn’t move much because I fell in the plow line and the top was packed. I rocked to and fro for what seemed like an eternity and finally I got a hold of the branch and dragged myself out. Freezing cold now, the wetness from being stuck in the snow froze my clothes. I continued on walking in 3 feet of snow feeling like I couldn’t take another step, but knowing to stop is to die. If you’ve ever been out in that environment for a while you know that everything aches, your feet hurt, your ears feel like they’re being cut off by the wind. Your hands and nose feel like ice icicles also being cut and burned, it can be brutal! Obviously, I survived, cold weather situations like that would happen. We broke down in a car with my Mom and she had blankets in the back. She hitched a ride with a trucker, because if we would have stayed there we would have froze to death. I think it was my Mom, oldest brother and I. (extreme examples or rant if you will)
The point is, no matter what obstacles or challenges we face in life we must push on. What matters is our survival. We then have an opportunity to make better choices, be more prepared (keep blankets in the trunk, dress warmer, steak a sign in the ground that says thin ice or crevasse). Over time and through life experience we learn not only to survive but to thrive. We can warn or help others be aware or overcome obstacles or dangers. Look at the Eskimos, look at people who have lost love and learned to love again, or people who were once in a seemingly hopeless state of mind and body, that hated life itself, now love it and are filled with joy. I’m one of these people and you CAN be too.
Take these quotes and add them to your arsenal and when all else fails just keep going!
“Can’t isn’t an option when you have to!”
“Keep moving!!! You slow down, you stop, and you die!”
“No one gets left behind!”
Love everyone, including yourself, you’re incredible, ~ J ~
Life is but a small number of breaths and then it passes from us. I was speaking to my wife the other day and we were talking about something taking 15 years to accomplish. I said; “In 15 years I’ll be 60.” Right then it hit me and I have to admit it was pure shock. I said it again, except this time I exclaimed; IN 15 YEARS I’LL BE 60!!! WHAT HAPPENED? I was just a teenager, what seemed like just the other day. At best my life is likely 1/2 past. So it is. I feel pretty good; I see a lot more gray popping out, but it doesn’t seem like that much time has passed. So it isn’t. It isn’t a lot of time, life is short and I see now the more that passes the shorter it seems. I suppose being anesthetized only squandered and slowed my perception of time. That’s not where I intended to go, excuse the rant. Here’s my thought; the seemingly hopeless situations I have passed are beyond my ability to recall. Many of the difficulties and struggles I don’t even remember. Obstacles I thought insurmountable I have overcome or have been removed for me. Things that seem to go on for days, week, months, and even years seem like they passed with hardly a thought. So where I am today is pretty relaxed. I don’t get real excited about too much “drama of life” anymore because I understand that it will pass. Everything will work out according to Gods plan whether I participate or not. As a matter of fact things might even get worse if I try to put my controlling hand in. Sure I could sit back and look at all the possible scenarios and potential outcomes. For what? I’m not going to waste time, the solutions are either apparent or they present themselves over time. I just need to continue doing the next right thing that is right in front of me.
Worry only worries
Doubt only doubts
Their only purpose is fuel for fear. I trust the master plan and it always works out the way it is supposed to the end.
The “Good Life” is the one you have! Live it up! ~ J ~
Does what I do pass the litmus test? Meaning are all my efforts bringing me the desired results? I entitled this blog “Economy of Motion” I study the martial arts and I frequently engage in physical labor. In both of these aspects of my life the foremost effective and important thing is “economy of motion”. In plain English making the smallest or simplest natural movement necessary to achieve the maximum effect or result. this equates to running swimming and many other physical activities. If you waste movement, effort, and energy you will tire quickly and will not do as much, go as far, achieve the maximum result. or worse be defeated by whatever opposes you. I have started to really apply this concept to nearly every aspect of my life. I had the privilege of a young man of 23 speaking to me yesterday about his position in life. He spoke of his need to learn six languages, also his desire to learn to do construction and auto mechanics. He spoke of wondering what group of people he might belong to, and how some girl who’s parents have money has a tendency to talk down to him. He was all over the place simply because he’s 23 and trying to figure it all out, he currently is living in a tent and working as a dishwasher, yet he was speaking of traveling to Romania to find a wife. I spoke to him about economy of motion and the necessities of life. First on the languages I said “How many of these 6 languages do you speak fluently?” (English was the answer we arrived at) I asked him why, he felt he needed to learn all of them? Basically, he wanted to obtain a higher degree of intelligence. A friend that was with us said you’re as intelligent as you’re ever going to be right now. You may gain more knowledge but your intelligence will be the same. “I know a lot of really knowledgeable people who aren’t very intelligent.
To the point; I said to him learn one language at a time because you will confuse them and not learn any of them all at once. I also said “You don’t have to figure it all out right now. Just work on what is right in front of you.” In his present position minus the God thing, I said the most important things for you right now, are the necessities of life; Job, Food, Shelter, everything else is hobby at this point. and as far as his group I explained “You belong where you say you belong.” We can’t base our lives on the acceptance of others. My friend said “You are part of the human race.” to which I gave him a pat on the shoulder and said “Welcome”
Speaking to economy of motion in our lives where they are today in relationship with that, I’ll present a few simple questions.
Am I making the best use of my time and achieving the maximum result with the minimum of effort?
Do I have excessive unnecessary activity in my life that is stealing from other areas of it or depriving me of interaction with people? (Partying, gambling, any obbsession/compulsion , hobby, Facebook, Pintrest, blogging, LOL)
Is the way I presently conduct my life working for me.
Finally am I using the economy of my thought well? (not wasting time on needless worry, or resentments of people or situations which are beyond my control or in the past.)
Where is my starting point absolute zero? What is truly necessary in my life? What are the best methods and movements to achieve all of my objectives and to maintain what and who is important to me? What is the order of importance? Do I need to eliminate or moderate any of my actions/activities which are inhibiting me, causing myself harm or harming others?
I encourage you to narrow your focus onto what is important, and seek the best result from all you do.
Live well my friends, if something is to heavy to lift off your shoulders alone, ask for help
This is a great tool for turning things around, if you are feeling down.
When we we’re kids things were simple. Now that we’ve grown up everything is insanely complicated. We can’t help but get run over by the things in our lives sometimes, hell, sometimes our lives back up and park on top of us.
The temporary “Fast Fix”
Think back to when you were little, think of your favorite things, sounds, places you went, and what really used to light you up inside.
I’ve used this method many times but I thought of sharing this today because where the concept came from, occured as I was demolishing a wall. It wasn’t coming out easy and I was tinking this sucks. Then off in the distance I heard a train horn and the sounds of a train. It immediately changed my mood, I LOVE TRAINS! when I was a kid I’d freak out everytime I saw one, I’m sure I drove everybody nuts because they’re everywhere where I’m from.
That’s one of mine here’s a quick list of some others:
Smells, sights, and places of yesteryear- Cotton candy the stand becomming a sticky mess, Eating sweetcorn at the fair, the fair, going to the candy store with my Grandpa Fleener (that’s a great one) fishing in the catfish pond, exploring, and countless others
There’s also fragrances people we love that have gone used to wear, soaps, detergents and cleaning products that bring a tangible presence.
Additionally, songs/sounds from when you were little, I play “I’d like to teach the world to sing” sometimes to time travel back to the 70’s or Gordon Lightfoot
I even put “The Hugo Montenegro Orchestra” (Composer of The Good The Bad and The Ugly and Pink Panther) in on Pandora and it plays movie soundtracks. I can invision places in the films and in my life.
Youtube is good as well for old shows and cartoons
Make your own mental list and use it you’ll be amazed by the results! Try what works for you find other methods, search yourself and go to a happier place and time
Good things to you, Jason
Let's make the world a better place one person at a time starting with myself