The Lion and the Zebra

One fine day a zebra was approaching his regular watering hole, when suddenly he noticed a ferocious looking lion.

He froze and thought to run and the lion said “Hey zebra, take it easy I won’t eat you. I was hoping maybe we could hang out. Us lions and zebras never spend any time together,”

The zebra said “That’s because lions kill zebras and antelope, then they eat us.”

The lion replied “You’re right, but you know, I’m not hungry because we had a huge water buffalo yesterday. I’m really full. I can barely drink any water. What do you say? You won’t have to worry about anyone messing with you, I’m the king of the jungle.”

The zebra said “I don’t know. I really don’t feel right about it.”

Then lion says “Come on! It’ll be fun. We can get to know each other and I promise that I won’t eat you. Come on over and have a drink with me.”

The zebra says “I guess it would be okay since your full and you promised that you won’t eat me.” So he walked over next to the lion and started to drink from the watering hole. Suddenly, the lion jumps on the zebra’s back, bit his neck, which killed the zebra and then he ate him.

The zebra goes to Heaven and when he arrives he asks God

“WHAT HAPPENED, HE PROMISED HE WOULD NOT EAT ME?

God said

“He was lion, you foolish zebra!” (get it he was lying you foolish zebra)

Most of us had a lion in our life that we trusted not to harm us though they’ve demonstrated repeatedly that it’s in their nature.

If someone repeats the same pattern of behavior over and over again and each time they say they’re sorry, but continually repeat the behavior.

It may not be deliberate. They might not even understand why they do it.

The pattern of behavior is ingrained in their character. It’s no more reasonable for us to think that things could be different than it is for the zebra.

If we don’t want to be preyed upon, we must keep a safe distance from people who behave like predators.

Relationships are for giving and providing, not for taking. If you’ve read this and you’re a victim run get help (hang out with the elephants). People who can protect you from physical, emotional, psychological, or spiritual harm.

If you have read this and you put unreasonable demands on another or think primarily of yourself and what you getting from a relationship, start seeing what you can give. Taking is one sided and giving works both ways. If you’ve ever had anything snatched from your hands, you know you try to hold onto it as tight as you can and don’t let go. If someone takes it, you feel violated or hurt and you want it back, grasping for it as they taunt you.

It’s the same with love, trust, intimacy, security, stability, and every other thing that can be taken in a relationship.

That is the end of my thought on this but this is where some of my own restoration came from. (I used to be a taker) It is awesome! The whole book is. I highly recommend it for anyone alcoholic or not!

This is from Alcoholics Anonymous “into Action”

The chances are that we have domestic troubles. Perhaps we are mixed up with women in a fashion we wouldn’t care to have advertised. We doubt if, in this respect, alcoholics are fundamentally much worse that other people. But drinking does complicate sex relations in the home. After a few years with an alcoholic, a wife get worn out, resentful and uncommunicative. How could she be anything else? The husband begins to feel lonely, sorry for himself. He commences to look around in the night clubs, or their equivalent, for something besides liquor. Perhaps he is having a secret and exciting affair with “the girl who understands.” In fairness we must say that she may understand, but what are we going to do about a thing like that? A man so involved often feels very remorseful at times, especially if he is married to a loyal and courageous girl who has literally gone through hell for him.

Whatever the situation, we usually have to do something about it. If we are sure our wife does not know, should we tell here? Not always, we think. If she knows in a general way that we have been wild, should we tell her it detail? Undoubtedly we should admit our fault. She may insist on knowing all the particulars. She will want to know who the woman is and where she is. We feel we ought to say to her that we have no right to involve another person. We are sorry for what we have done and, God willing, it shall not be repeated. More than that we cannot do; we have no right to go further. Though there may be justifiable exceptions, and though we wish to lay down no rule of any sort, we have often found this the best course to take.

Our design for living is not a one-way street. It is as good for the wife as for the husband. If we can forget, so can she. It is better, however, that one does not needlessly name a person upon whom she can vent jealousy.

Perhaps there are some cases where the utmost frankness is demanded. No outsider can appraise such an intimate situation. It may be that both will decide that the way of good sense and loving kindness is to let by-gones be by-gones. Each might pray about it, having the other one’s happiness uppermost in mind. Keep it always in sight that we are dealing with that most terrible human emotion, jealousy. Good generalship may decide that the problem be attacked on the flank rather than risk a face-to- face combat.

If we have no such complication, there is plenty we should do at home. Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober. Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home if he doesn’t. But he is yet a long way from making good to the wife or parents whom for years he has so shockingly treated. Passing all understanding is the patience mothers and wives have had with alcoholics. Had this not been so, many of us would have no homes today, would perhaps be dead.

The alcoholic is like a tornado roaring his way through the lives of others. Hearts are broken. Sweet relationships are dead. Affections have been uprooted. Selfish and inconsiderate habits have kept he home in turmoil. We feel a man is unthinking when he says that sobriety is enough. He is like the farmer who came up out of his cyclone cellar to find his home ruined. To his wife, he remarked, “Don’t see anything the matter here, Ma. Ain’t it grand the wind stopped blowin’?” Yes, there is a long period of reconstruction ahead. We must take the lead. A remorseful mumbling that we are sorry won’t fill the bill at all. We ought to sit down with the family and frankly analyze the past as we now see it, being very careful not to criticize them. Their defects may be glaring, but the chances are that our own actions are partly responsible. So we clean house with the family, asking each morning in meditation that our Creator show us the way of patience, tolerance, kindliness and love.

The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. Unless one’s family expresses a desire to live upon spiritual principles we think we ought not to urge them. We should not talk incessantly to them about spiritual matters. They will change in time. Our behavior will convince them more than our words. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic out of anyone.

There may be some wrongs we can never fully right. We don’t worry about them if we can honestly say to ourselves that we would right them if we could. Some people cannot be seen — we sent them an honest letter. And there may be a valid reason for postponement in some cases. But we don’t delay if it can be avoided. We should be sensible, tactful, considerate and humble without being servile or scraping. As God’s people we stand on our feet; we don’t crawl before anyone.

If we are painstaking about this phase of our development, we will be amazed before we are half way through. We are going to know a new freedom and a new happiness. We will not regret the past nor wish to shut the door on it. We will comprehend the word serenity and we will know peace. No matter how far down the scale we have gone, we will see how our experience can benefit others. That feeling of uselessness and self-pity will disappear. We will lose interest in selfish things and gain interest in our fellows. Self-seeking will slip away. Our whole attitude and outlook upon life will change. Fear of people and of economic insecurity will leave us. We will intuitively know how to handle situations which used to baffle us. We will suddenly realize that God is doing for us what we could not do for ourselves. Are these extravagant promises? We think not. They are being fulfilled among us, sometimes quickly, sometimes slowly. They will always materialize ifwe work for them.

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